Office party pants

What if I got slightly tipsy at the office Christmas party, danced with a bit too much enthusiasm and maybe smooched a married colleague?


Letting your hair down at work once a year should be allowed and it should be widely agreed that what happens at a staff party remains at that staff party. This said, you should always try to keep this PG-13 (unless you work at a day-care centre, where the allowed rating should barely hit PG).

Downing a few (too many)? Definitely ok, as long as you don’t insult your boss. Dirty dancing? Moderately ok, but no stripping, please. Dangerously liaising with colleagues? That gets into tricky territory…

As this may – or may not – have happened in your case, it’s time to control the damage done. Who saw you? Will it get leaked? How likely is it to happen again? And did it mean something? These are all questions you have to ask yourself as you pick up your shoes (read: dignity) and make your way back to your office tomorrow.

So think about it carefully, ask a trusted colleague to do a 360°-review on your performance and consider your choices. Can we all be adults, pretend we didn’t see anything and move on? you blackmail those who know and threaten to reveal their sordid downfalls? Or is it time to update your CV and take the next step in your career?

Embracing failure

Today’s wake-up call is about embracing failure. In a world where everyone is running up to success (which nowadays seems to be measured in money, power and Instagram likes), people are starting to appreciate failure. It looks like making mistakes and accepting failure is becoming cool. And I truly believe this kind of acceptance is the best thing that could ever happen to us.

I just found out that the bakery at the corner of my street has closed. In a heartfelt note posted on the shop window, the baker explains that after 20 years of loyal service, she has decided to move on to a new challenge. A new chapter of her life.

I am super sad. I can still smell the perfume of her freshly baked pain au chocolat. Mmmh. This bakery was literally steps away from my door. On weekends, I was only steps away from those delicious freshly baked pastries and her orgasmic tartelettes aux citron. It will take me MONTHS to get used to this change. But this is not why I am telling you this story.

A big revelation

Let’s focus on the baker. She has decided to move on, to stop and change after 20 long years. she has accepted that something needed to change. She has taken the time to look at herself embracing failure. Bold. So very bold of her!

Just to give you an idea, I am soon to celebrate 10 years in my work career and that scares me, as I start to feel the need to move, to stop and change as the baker did. The only problem with that is that I still do not know what I would like to do next. No f***ing clue.

Back to the wake-up call now. If we can embrace failure and decide that failing is not only ok, but it is actually something to be proud of, we can also decide to be happy. We can decide that something that a minute ago was freaking us out is now inspiring us. It is all happening in our minds. What a responsibility!

This is huge guys. If making mistakes and accepting failure becomes cool it means that, in the end, we are finally recognizing that WE are the only real person responsible for our own happiness. We are the ones to decide if we are happy or not.

Think about it.

When you wake up in the morning and you had a good night sleep, you know it is going to be a good day. Right? When you are running late for work and you manage to catch the bus seconds before it hits the road again, you know the stars are with you and it is going to be a good day.

When your 3-year-old is sleeping in her bed for longer than 2 consecutive hours, and your 1-year-old has not asked for his milk after midnight, you know you will be sleeping at least for 6 consecutive hours and you also know that tomorrow is going to be a very good day. I know, baby steps, but better than the previous night’s 3 hours, right?

I think that we are just so formatted to always want more that we have somehow forgotten how to be happy just with what we have. And in the long run this is not doing us any good. What would happen if we’d try to concentrate more on what we already have? On our accomplishments, our achievements, instead of only focusing on our objectives? Let’s take some time to celebrate ourselves (for the good and the bad too). Even when at first sight we feel like there is nothing to celebrate, we surely have at least learned something. We should not be spending all our energies on thinking that we are not enough. We should on the contrary focus our time on training our self-esteem.

It’s all about acceptance.

I am not against successful people. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to pursue a better future. What I am saying is, we should also sometimes look at what we do have, instead of always only focusing on what we don’t have. and that also includes the mistakes we have made. It includes embracing failure and accepting who we are and where we are in the journey.

Let’s accept that it is ok not to always be perfectly groomed and excelling at all we do. We are allowed to feel crappy, lost and tired! Be indulgent with yourself. It’s ok not to have a plan, if you embrace it. You will never be good enough for people anyways. The sooner you accept this, the better.

Style me – or not

Can someone please explain me why you can never possibly leave the hairdresser looking exactly how you wanted to?

No matter how hard you try and no matter how well you come prepared to the appointment (including pictures of the hair cut you want and a detailed power point presentation about the type of waves you like). And most importantly, no matter how much you pay!

My second thought goes to the guy who invented the wavy hairstyle: seriously buddy, why did you do that? Why. Because apparently, you are the only one who can really do it, given all the hairdressers I have been to clearly cannot! And I am not the only one who has felt the urgency of going straight under the shower to wash her hair back again right after the visit at the hairdresser. I know at least a couple of friends who have lived the experience and felt like a poodle instead of feeling like a Kardashian.

I hope you can help me giving an answer to this unsolved existential query. And if – even better – you are a hairdresser and you CAN actually do a wavy hairstyle like the Kardashians, please give me your number!!!